07 Jul Stress self-help with 7 steps
Most of us are trying to find a balance between our work and personal life, to lead happy and fulfilling lives without stress. Sometimes this appears too hard to attain especially when stressors such as difficult relationships, divorce, finances and work seem to accumulate and plot against us. This causes stress, which leads to many health issues such as: physical, mental, emotional exhaustion and burn out, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, IBS, insomnia, irritability.
It is therefore important to understand what triggers your stress and how to manage it .. Stress is your unique response to the external negative stressors. Experience of stress are yours but stressors are external. You may not be in power to change what you are facing, but you have a choice in how you face them.
Here are 7 simple steps you can do to overcome stress, attain equilibrium and make your abilities for stress management one of your strongest.
- Create a mental void by focusing on the now, the time where the past doesn’t exist and the future have not yet happened. What are you doing right now? What sounds do you hear? How are you feeling? How does it feel to be in your body? Notice any tensions in your body? What are your thoughts about?
- Detach. Observe your thoughts, feelings and experiences without judgment from afar. Look at yourself and the situation as separate from your mind.
- Identify the stressor. Make the monster visible. What is it that’s stressing you right now? What’s the worst thing that can happen? What do you fear the most? What’s the worst thing that can happen if what you fear manifests? Imagine the worst has happened..what’s the worst thing about it? What happens next? Is it realistic?
- Take control. Imagine how would you like the situation to be instead? What’s in your power to change? You may not be able to change your employment, but you may be able to change the way you plan your work. What can you do to help your self, to improve your situation that you are in by taking responsibility? List out the things you can change.
- Take control of your life. Things can become overwhelming when we feel we have to do everything and then realise we don’t have time and are overcommitted. But you can shield yourself by taking control of your responses. Stay truthful to yourself and say “No” with firmness when it is not necessary to make a commitment, and you cannot handle it.
- Cultivate self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and treat you with love and care. This helps in detaching yourself from your self-defeating thoughts. Treat yourself like you would treat the person you love the most in the world or your best friend. What would you advise them to do if they were in your situation?
- Unwind. What helps you to relax? Exercise? A hot bath? Watching comedy? Plan your day your future.
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“Investing in your mind is the greatest investment into a brighter future” Natalia Nad.